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THE OTHER SIDE OF BLOGGING

You would think that blogging is so amazing and glamorous. Fun-filled with events, freebies and gifts, Always surrounded by creative and interesting people, with fabulous opportunities and enormous amounts of money. I have been blogging for more than 10 years and although this is partly true, there is a totally different side of it that not everyone speaks about.

Let’s get real shall we?!

  • You don’t have enough followers. OK. So how much is enough really?!
  • You will get rejected numerous times. It does not matter if you work hard, have great creatives or have great engagement. If you don’t fit into a brand’s vision, you won’t cut it. OK. That kinda hurt but I understand.
  • You won’t always get invited to events, dinners, gatherings or exclusive previews because (a) The PR does not know who you are (b) The PR does not like you (c) You are not popular enough to be on the list and (d) all of the above
  • You are asian. I can’t help where I was born. You are not thin enough. But rice is so good. You are not pretty enough. Pretty like how exactly? Would surgery help?! Believe me, I have heard it all.
  • You don’t fit luxury brands because you are not really the target market. But here is the press release so if you can kindly post them on your social media, that would be great. Huh?!
  • You invest in quality and expensive gear, research extensively for inspiration, create content by shooting outside in the heat, scout for great locations and edit countless of hours. But the one snapped with a phone selfie in the bathroom gets more credit and probably gets paid too. You on the other hand, after having spent hours and money to create the exact same content, well, a thank you will be good enough right?! Wrong baby!!
  • Events season is great but if you miss out on a whole season, people immediately think you quit blogging and stop inviting you coz you are no longer active. Really?! Last time I checked my blog is still running and I post daily on instagram.
  • Photoshoots to create content is the core of blogging. But man, it is tiring both mentally and physically. It takes hours to create content and don’t even get me started on dressing up in the car or public toilets. It is not as much fun as you may think.
  • Can I also say my makeup melts every single time I shoot. Honestly do not know how these other bloggers go around taking selfies and hopping from one event to another with their full on makeup intact the entire time as if the sun skipped on them or something. I mean is that some sort of special talent or foundation that I do not know about?!
  • Hi blogger (I have a name by the way), because we are giving you freebies, vouchers, gifting you this amazing product or inviting you to this fabulous event, you are obligated to post 4 instagram posts, 1 video and 1 boomerang. Really?!
  • I am an active blogger and I spend a good amount of money to maintain it. I pay 200$ a year to be exact. And that does not even include expenses when I do projects, create content and go for events. So I really have no words left in my brain when I get an email asking me to create content and post to promote for 2$. Is that like better than nothing at all? Where do I draw the line?!
  • We don’t have a budget. But your support is appreciated – 5 instagram posts please. Haha! You are funny!
  • Please find herewith the latest press release on medical supplies. Ummm….ok, I thought I was a style blogger.
  • Hello, our brand caters and market to all colours, race and sizes. But you are not Arab or European so we apologize as we currently can’t work with you. Wow and you cater to all huh?!
  • You don’t have enough engagement. Ok. So those one liner comments from fake people are ok?
  • You will sometimes get a few stares, and the ever famous “you don’t belong here” look at events. Ok people are looking at me weird, do I have something in my teeth?!
  • Do it for the gram! I am sure I am not the only one out here who has gone out of her/his way to capture an image for instagram. Thankfully though, my brain is still properly fixed in my head to not go on rooftops and hang for dear life just coz I need validation and millions of likes.

Don’t get dismayed. Blogging is tough and no one ever said it was easy. You can’t please everyone, you won’t always be ahead and you won’t always get the same opportunities as others. There will always be struggles, disappointments and sometimes, a few judgemental looks and opinions. It isn’t always about the perfect feed or the number of following or traffic that you have. And it definitely isn’t about the number of projects you have on your plate, the lineup of brands that you work with or the amount of money you get.

Being in this industry means you need to learn to have thick skin for all the rejections you will face. So it is so important to never lose sight of why you started blogging in the first place. You need to believe not only in yourself but also however far you may go with your blogging, it will always be about your journey. Your success depends on how you appreciate whatever comes for you.ย As long as you love what you do, enjoy what you share, and stay inspired to create, you can’t go wrong. Remember your worth and no matter who you are, where you are from and how you look like, it does not give anyone the right to ever look down on you or think less of you. You are worth every respect, every dime and whatever little acknowledgement there may be for the work that you do.

Hope everyone is having a great week!! #bloghustle

Disclaimer: This is me, experiencing blogging/social media where I am based. I am not sure what other bloggers experience out here or those who are outside of the Middle East. Englighten me with your comments and thoughts.


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  • Great blog post hun! I totally agree with you, blogging is def. not so easy, as for you outfit I love how you paired those pants with the floral top !

    Have a great start to your week !
    Nina
    xox
    http://www.thecrispylipstick.com

  • Nina

    This was a great post to read. I only did a few photoshoots so far and it was hard for me __ from finding a location to finding a perfect outfit and then editing… and after that, some idiot will ask you to do a sponsored post for $10. You are absolutely right, that we have to know our worth. Love these photos, you look amazing in this outfit.

    Nina’s Style Blog

  • Let me tell you that I LOVE posts like this, it has been a pleasure reading it and I totally agree with you!
    xx Elisa
    http://www.francinesplaceblog.com
    DIY & LIFESTYLE BLOG

  • Radi

    Blogging sure takes so much time and effort, but if you love it all that work really pays off and really feels like fun.
    Love your style in these shots!

    http://www.fashionradi.com

  • wow girl, this is so real! The blogging struggles all summed up perfectly!

    http://www.prettyinleather.net

  • Thank you for sharing this post!! I’m in a bit of a funk, and it’s good to know the struggles aren’t isolated!
    xx
    http://angelebaby.com

  • Len Dela Peรฑa Parent

    Loving this look on you babe! Perfect styling! Love this post! Very informative!
    Stay gorgeous!
    Have a wonderful week ahead!
    Much love, Len
    http://www.lenparent.com
    XO

  • YES to all of this! I’ve struggled with a number of these over the years, and will never understand why people who have built a fake following succeed ๐Ÿ˜›

    Green Fashionista

  • TheDubaimakeupguru

    I love how raw and honest you are as a blogger! Thank you for being true and staying true! You are one of the few bloggers i truly admire! Dont panic, Stay organic! โค๏ธ

  • Tina

    GIRL! YAAAASSS! You tell it as it is. Honestly this post spoke to me so so soooo much. Everything you’ve listed is SO-ON-POINT (and hilarious!). Lately I’ve been going through a bit of a mental stump, feeling a little dejected. I also feel the “you’re Asian” thing too. But what can we do but to keep pushing and always remember why we started in the first place? LOVE IT GIRL! Keep going ๐Ÿ™‚ Your work is amazing. <3

    xoxo Tina | http://www.ofleatherandlace

  • Cannot relate enough to this post. It really is a struggle in the blogging world today and sometimes I am like is it really worth it?? In the end, it obviously is but there are so many hurdles! You’re doing an amazing job though, darling. Keep it up <3 Your style is impeccable

    Enclothed Cognition

  • Tiffany May

    Hi great post and portraits! Stay encouraged!
    Tiff
    http://www.dashoffashandfinance.com

  • Meredith

    PREACH girl!

    xoxo,
    meredith
    NO BASIS IN REALITY | LATEST POST | INSTAGRAM

  • Vivian Elegonye

    Such a great read, and I do appreciate your honesty….helps to put things in perspective for those of us just starting out. However, Iโ€™m a form believer in the fact that, if you love what you do, those challenges are mere huddles.

    http://www.vivellefashion.com

  • your top is so pretty I love the floral print, amazing photos too!
    xo
    http://www.laurajaneatelier.com

  • Haha, Mahryska, you are hilarious. You made me laugh. I totally agree with each and every point. Thank you for sharing it. I heard several of those “smart lines” as well. At least now I don’t have to feel like there is something wrong with me! Haha, so thank you for sharing this. I think I will quote your article in one of my future posts.

    Hugs
    Miri

    https://currentlywearing.com

  • Babe to be honest, that’s one of the best posts I read lately ! So, so, so true !!!! I loved reading this, I felt less lonely ๐Ÿ™‚

    http://www.pardonmyobsession.com/

  • Pam Scalfi

    this is all so very true and tragically comic! The amount of times brands have asked me for SO much for a free product, am like really…
    Pam xo/ Pam Scalfiโ™ฅ

  • gorgeous pics and I love your style! and totally true about the free things brands expect you to do…

    Hadas | The Fashion Matters- Luxury travel and fashion blog

  • Violette

    I totally relate, I loved this post!! Blogging is though, I know but I’m telling myself that if it was easy it wouldn’t be fun. You are doing a great job with your blog, you look gorgeous and your photos look like editorial in Vogue so you can be proud of you!!

    http://violettedaily.com

  • Nikki Living-Life

    Wow such a great post. I celebrate my one year of blogging today. I am a newbie, and yes like you said it is tough but I’ve learned so much. I am thankful that our paths crossed in this blogging community. I admire and respect your hustle. Now onto your outfit. Your style is always on point and your pics are amazing. Love the pants and the top and those glasses are just fabulous. Thank you for sharing babe.

    Xx
    Nikki
    http://www.nikkilivinglife.com/blog

  • Great post!! I love your look so much!
    xoxo
    https://www.donkeycool.es/

  • Tina – Styleappetite

    Oh yesss – I can relate to sooo many points on your list, sometimes its really ridiculous ๐Ÿ˜‰ So many agencies and companies really think that they can use bloggers for free advertising.. I hope that more an more people wake up and finally see, that this is actual WORK.
    But at the same time- I love blogging too ๐Ÿ™‚

    Great outfit by the way โ™ฅ
    xxx
    Tina
    http://styleappetite.com

  • Paola

    Such an interesting post… you are doing a great job babe, I love your blog!
    Your photo-shoots are always the best!
    Kisses, Paola.
    Expressyourself

  • We need more honest and real posts like this out there. Blogging can use and exhaust you, but at the same time it has made you grow immensely. I am so glad I get to appreciate your content – it’s amazing and should be recognized! PS: as always, love your accessories ๐Ÿ˜‰

    xx http://www.qustomquinns.com/blog

  • Thanks for being real here. I feel ya! Love this printed top and cool location for this shoot!

    http://www.kathrineeldridge.com

  • It can be quite frustrating. I think we have all felt this!!!!
    XOXO
    Jodie
    http://www.jtouchofstyle.com

  • I applaud the honesty in this post!

    annescribblesanddoodles.blogspot.com

  • There are definitely two sides to blogging. Thankfully I love the fun parts!

    Amy Ann
    Straight A Style

  • so real! great post babe
    xx
    http://thedemeler.com

  • This is so true – blogging looks so glamorous but it’s hard and there is a lot of work that we put in! I think you’re on the right track babe!

    x
    Shloka
    http://www.thesilksneaker.com

  • Such a great post! There are definitely two sides to blogging! Love your look here you look amazing in the pink floral. Gemma x
    http://www.jacquardflower.uk

  • Great post! What people don’t know is it really takes a lot of work to blog and be relevant. Thanks for speaking out!

    Sheena | http://www.sheenalovessunsets.com

  • This post is AMAZING because it’s so damn true. There is so much work (blood, sweat, tears!) that go into blogging (and doing it well), and yet- we get slighted oftentimes. Oy. But know that your blog is constant source of inspo for me (and countless others!) and you are killin’ the game, babe!

    -Ashley
    Le Stylo Rouge

  • The scene and your outfit are just on top!!!!

    so cool!

    xx
    Michaela
    Michaelablog
    Bloglovin

  • Haha, I nodded at all of these points you’ve made here, girl. Unfortunately, everything you’ve mentioned here is true, at least for me. As for your outfit, I adore that hat and that top is so pretty! Thanks for sharing, beauty, and I hope you’re having a great week so far!

    XO,

    Jalisa

    THE STYLE CONTOUR

  • Wow interesting read. On another note love the location for this shoot <3

    https://thriftingwithk.blogspot.com/

  • Raysa Garcia

    Sooooo true. Amazing post! Love love love it.
    You look spectacular as always.
    Thank you for sharing this with us.
    Xx, Raysa

  • Shauna C

    These are so true! It’s hard not to get caught up in the numbers of it all and stressing about followers. I always try and remind myself that this is supposed to be fun!

    Shauna

    http://www.lipglossandlace.net

  • Veronica Levy

    Ahh I love this so much I seriously read the bullet list twice. Thanks for the motivation! Always needed. And I couldn’t agree more. Sometimes I have to remind myself that I started blogging just because I LOVE playing dress up, period! xoxo

    http://lombardandfifth.com

  • I luaghed at some of these point (more a sort of histerical laugh), like when I receive all these medical and pharmaceutical press kits. Or even when PR give me the press images thinking I’m gonna publish them.. hello, I’m a personal style blogger, it means that I should create my own vision around the look, shouldn’t i? And let’s talk about the no budget campaign that requires 5 IG posts only for the fame. But thanks god, there is also another side of blogging. I love using my blog to connect with people, I like seeing it as a hub for my creativity. It’s my space, no one can take it away from me! xx

    http://www.bonjourchiara.com

  • glowyshoes1

    Girl you hit those points straightup.. it’s crazy when you get mails and the payment is belittling to what you’ve worked so hard to achieve on your blog.. i believe stuffs like that makes you stronger in preparation for the bigger picture

    Glowyshoes’s blog

  • sophie

    Great you have those points highlighted.Couldn’t have mentioned them any better.You look so great though.I really love the outfit and the pictures are so breathtakingly beautiful.
    sophieatieno.com

  • Kelsey & Kenecha

    Such a great post and so true! You look stunning btw x

    Florals&Smiles

  • Great post! I love your outfit. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Check out my new post at: Shoot for the stars

  • Well said. We’ve seen it all too ๐Ÿ™‚ Glad to know there are more of us out there!

    Xx,

    @WanderLustGirls
    http://www.thewanderlustgirls.com

  • Kara Aragon

    Blogging definitely isn’t all pretty that’s for sure! But you definitely are! You look so great in these photos. Love the location too.

    Kara Aragon
    http://www.thekaragon.com

  • Caitlin

    This post is so relatable and true! Thanks for sharing xx

    Beauty & Colour | Vegan Lifestyle Blog

  • jade

    Thanks for sharing this gorgeous

    Filipa xxx
    PlayingWithApparel.com | Instagram

  • Omg this is definitely one of my favorite posts! I totally agree with you one hundred percent! But the shocking part I didn’t know they would dare to say something about being an Asian! that is so rude and beyond acceptable!
    I got to so many similar situation and it really sad! I don’t know if they are encouraging us to get fake followers/likes like others? or stop wasting our time with great content and proper photo shoots!
    Thank you babe for sharing this post with us!

  • I agree to some point in here especially the race issue. In some countries, Asian people are being judged. Anyways, I like how honest you are with your words and i love the photos as I always do.
    Much Love,
    Zarrah | The Bandwagon Chic

  • As a blogger I totally agree with so many of these! I am totally hating on Instagram right now…Great post and love your style!
    ~Samantha
    http://goldcoastgirlblog.com

  • I so completely agree with all that you’ve shared. Blogging ain’t easy plus it’s not the same for everyone. A person can succeed in a short period of time, others, well, it takes them a little bit more but what has to matter is that we all enjoy it. I’ve never been a fan of numbers either plus I do not go crazy about them. Little by little those who are interested will come and follow the journey if they like what they see. ๐Ÿ™‚

    On another note, I love your outfit, you look so stunning! Hope you have a lovely day!
    XO, Melissa

  • Such a great post and you look amazing!

    xo, Jennifer
    http://www.publicistinpearls.com

  • Dressed With Soul

    I do agree and your look with the palazzo pants is so cool!
    xx from Bavaria/Germany, Rena
    http://www.dressedwithsoul.com

  • Thank you so much for sharing such an honest account of blogging. I totally agree with every point you mention – you look stunning in these photos!

    Heather xx
    https://www.hefafa.me.uk

  • Omg can’t believe people have told you “no” because your Asian, but I completely agree without as an outsider I never ever tthought about the struggles that came with blogging and now as a blogger I understand that the struggle is real and that sometimes you’ll feel like giving up. Thank you so much for sharing this so honestly!!

    xo | Cindy Elena
    http://www.boringclothes.com

  • Jane Fitfabfun

    Such a great post! You look super cool!
    xo, Jane
    http://www.fitfabfunmom.com

  • Thank you for sharing your honest opinion. But I am sure you keep on going because the rewards outweigh all these negative things you mentioned above. Plus you blog for yourself, and this gives you an meaningful outlet to expressive yourself, earn money, and have fun all at the same time. I would love to hear more about the positive things and the things you have learned from blogging!

    Keep on the hustle!

    Smile and style on!
    SK
    http://www.stylesforthought.com

  • Yes, so full of contradictions and silly experiences and expectations. Some people will never get it at all, either. Keep following our own paths though, that is what matters.
    xx Jenelle
    http://www.inspiringwit.com

  • First of all, you look absolutely gorgeous! I love this outfit!
    Secondly, I love this post as it is exactly how I’ve been feeling lately! I’ve only been blogging a couple of years, but I agree with all your points! I have been so demoralised lately (and Instagram is awful right now) so I have been thinking of giving up, but your post makes me realise that I’m not alone and that I need to remember why I started blogging in the first place (which was to have fun)!!
    Julia x
    http://www.thevelvetrunway.com

  • Jecky Lebid

    I absolutely love reading posts like yours about blogging! Also, that makes you even more relatable, Marhyska!

    And how dreamy is this shooting location though?

    XX from Germany
    Jecky
    Want Get Repeat

  • Dominique

    I totally relate to so many of your points! When people ask for extensive coverage with no budget or $2, it’s actually laughable! xx

    http://www.thatnewdress.com

  • This is such a lovely read dear. I can totally relate to the things you raised. By the way, your pants are lovely!

    Jessica | notjessfashion.com

  • You look so amazing, love this gorgeous look!

    http://www.plogstyle.com

  • Thanks for sharing your thoughts on things, so relatable.
    Angie
    http://www.thefashionfuse.com/

  • You are so correct with the points you listed there. The one that got me is blogging on medical supplies hahaha. It’s crazy or blogging for $2 really, I think we’ve all been there. You look amazing by the way. Lovely post

  • So amusing dear and so true too. I haven’t attended an event so I don’t know how it feels out there and I admit I’m scared to attend one thinking about the weird stares that I will get if ever haha. But you’re doing well, I can see from your very interesting and highly creative contents. Keep going! Love the sunnies btw, so pretty!
    http://www.busyandfab.com

  • Hahaha, first of all, let me thank you for that little visit to my blog that allowed me to discover you Mahryska! I laughed hard at all of these, laughter mixed with frustration, as I understand so well what you are talking about here, dear. It’s amazing that even the big and successful bloggers are experiencing rejection and devaluation of their work. It’s a tough industry for sure, but if we don’t lose sight of why we love it and politely tell those judgemental people to go back to where they came from, I am sure one still enjoys blogging and a killer photoshoot like the one you pulled off here brings you pride and and a happy face. Thanks for being real

    Saida | She talks Glam

  • I love your honesty so much. Thanks for sharing this with us! I think you are an incredible talent and I hope you never stop sharing it with the world.

    “As long as you love what you do, enjoy what you share, and stay inspired to create, you canโ€™t go wrong.” <— So needed to hear this. Thank you babe.

    xo Elizabeth | stylewich.com

  • I love the honesty in your post. Blogging is not easy and many people think it’s all glamorous and fun but you have to put in the work.

    https://dreamofadventures.com/